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Coloring of Motherhood

The Coloring of Motherhood By Leah Garner

We recognize the outline. The actions and movements seem familiar. Seen from afar, or under a microscope of scrutiny.
The emotions find empathy inside us, but perhaps in a different setting. A glimmer of something we dreamt, but we cannot quite touch in our waking moments.
And then we cross over into our own motherhood.
Going from the world of instruction and paint by number, into an expansive palette of colors with the brushes in our hands. We think back on the Masters we admired and try to follow their strokes. Our hands hesitate to make a mark like those criticized for their art. And yet…
With each stroke we find the colors dry different than when first applied. Sometimes the picture gets more complicated the harder that we try. Taking a step back helps us see a bigger picture; appreciate the unique colors for what they are.
We see our child. And our children hold brushes too, Painting the strokes that make the mother that is you.
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The night the Operating Room went dark…

Have you ever seen an OR room with the lights turned off?Everything put away in its place?All is clean and sterile?All is quiet?Empty…?

I must confess that in my own experience I had never seen it happen.I am sure it is the case; an ordinary occurrence for the staff of the hospitals.But for me, my view of an OR has been quite different.
When I visualize an OR, it is bright, filled with people, lots of noises, and it is very cold.You often see more of the ceiling than you do of the floor, or even the surrounding walls.The color of blue scrubs and screens fill one’s view.
And yet…there was the night the OR went dark.
It was a late night supporting a client that needed baby delivered in a hurry.Everyone was prepped, mom was taken in, baby made her arrival, and mom slowly rejoined the conscious world as she felt her baby on her chest.
I notice over my shoulder that staff were finishing up in the OR.Everything prepared for the next possible surgery and then they left and turned off the lights.D…

The Yes to Birth Experience

What does the doula do on her day off?  She becomes a student!  My quest or mission to be the best doula I can be for my clients, calls me to ever looking for ways to increase my understanding of birth and how to support the mother and family.
I wanted to share with you my latest discovery because it is to important to keep to myself.  The Yes to Birth Experience is a collection of interviews with leaders in the birth world about a variety of topics for the expectant mother, partner, care provider, doula, or anyone who is wanting to learn more about birth.  You can sign up to receive these daily interviews in your email mailbox.  Click on this link to get signed up! 
Yes to Birth Experience. Discover how to have a healthier, less painful, empowering, satisfying pregnancy & birth!
I am only three days in, but am already inspired to share this great information with my current and future clients.  Past clients too, for that matter!
Topics covered so far include the importance of rel…

Feeding the hungry mother-Macaroni & Cheese

As a new mother... or even a veteran mother you sometimes find yourselves feeling hungry at random times of the day.  For myself 10 o'clock in the morning is the time when I realize that while I did drink my coffee that morning, the toddler stole my breakfast and I never got anything else during the hustle and bustle of the morning.  This in between time where breakfast no longer sounds appealing but lunch seems too far away, I find myself glancing through the pantry for a suitable snack to tide me over.

While I am reading some great books about healthy food options for pregnancy and postpartum, today I was looking for something purely comfort food based that would take little effort and time.
As a result, I present to you Microwave Macaroni N Cheese!

The ingredients are pretty simple.
 Macaroni noodles, water, milk, cheese, salt, and pepper

Find your largest mug that is microwave safe.

Inside add 1/2 cup noodles and 1/2-3/4 cup water.  If you like more thin of a sauce, go for t…

1 in 8- A message for those who wait

1 in 8
One in eight couples have made plans for a family. One in eight couples hope during a year of trying to start their family.And yet, they still wait. 1 in 8
Infertility is a real and common occurrence affecting 1 in 8 couples.  An yet we don't here about it, because those experiencing these struggles often feel isolated in their experiences.
The film One More Shot: A Film about Making Modern Families explores many of the different challenges, emotions, and approaches that are taken on the journey through infertility.
For those whom are going through this journey, this film offers a source of solidarity for those experiencing similar yet unique challenges.Even for those who aren’t the 1 in 8, the film grants a perspective that will hopefully make you more compassionate to those struggling. 1 in 4 For those who do experience pregnancy, studies reveal that anywhere from 10-25% of all clinically recognized pregnancies will end in miscarriage.
The fact is, in your circle of friends the o…
Happy August Everyone!
It has been an action packed summer in our household.I took a break from doula services to spend time with my family.This year I had Momma Camp for my older two kids, resulting in various adventures every week. One even included seeing a different type of birth at Fair Oaks Farms. School is starting again next week, and Gracious Hands Doula Services is now taking clients for fall and winter.
Here are a few upcoming events you should know!
Understanding Birth Class August 18, 2018
This class is a great starting point for expectant parents learning about all the various aspects and options of birth.The birthing process and methods used to encourage the natural progress of labor will be discussed.Birth interventions, comfort measures, and labor support are also discussed.
Class enrollment is open until August 15th. Register here.
Natural Comfort Measures Class September 15, 2018
Interactive lessons and hands on practice of comfort measures are discussed and practiced to h…

I have a dream...

On a social media page with fellow doulas, the question was asked "What would be one thing that you wish you could change about birth or postpartum in your area of the world".

Just one thing?  My immediate thought went to providing wireless monitors for all birthing facilities.  Restriction of movement during labor prevents baby's normal progression towards birth and limits comfort measures for the mother as well.

But the question got me thinking about what I really would like to see happen here in Indiana, in Tippecanoe County, Lafayette, and my neighborhood.

The Big picture?

I wish that pregnancy, birth and postpartum was something that was celebrated and supported.  I wish it wasn't treated as an illness that needs to be treated and recovered from as soon as possible.  I wish the family dynamic was respected and supported.  Paid leave allowing for time for bonding, establishment of secure breastfeeding, recovery of birth, adjustment to parenthood; all without stress o…