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Arranging your own kind of postpartum care

If you aren't sure if hiring a postpartum doula is for you, consider reaching out to your friends and neighbors with a list of things you would like help with once the baby arrives.  This can vary from cooking meals, doing laundry, mowing your lawn or anything else that will be helpful to you and your partner as you spend time bonding with your new baby.  If you are needing a more detailed list of possibilities, check out this link from Gloria Lemay's Birth Blog.  http://www.glorialemay.com/blog/?p=34

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