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1 in 8- A message for those who wait


1 in 8

One in eight couples have made plans for a family. One in eight couples hope during a year of trying to start their family.  And yet, they still wait. 
1 in 8

Infertility is a real and common occurrence affecting 1 in 8 couples.  An yet we don't here about it, because those experiencing these struggles often feel isolated in their experiences.

The film One More Shot: A Film about Making Modern Families explores many of the different challenges, emotions, and approaches that are taken on the journey through infertility.  

For those whom are going through this journey, this film offers a source of solidarity for those experiencing similar yet unique challenges.  Even for those who aren’t the 1 in 8, the film grants a perspective that will hopefully make you more compassionate to those struggling.
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For those who do experience pregnancy, studies reveal that anywhere from 10-25% of all clinically recognized pregnancies will end in miscarriage.

The fact is, in your circle of friends the odds are pretty high that someone has experienced infertility and or a miscarriage.

As a doula, we get to join parents when the pregnancy is going well.  But we also recognize that the road to this moment may have been a hard one; physically, mentally, spiritually, and often financially. 

Every child is precious, no matter how long they are in our presence.

As doulas we recognize that these experiences can shape how you view the birth experience.  We are there to help you find your way through uncharted territory of birth.  Give you confidence in your body and baby’s ability to be born. We respect and honor the emotions you bring from your journey.

Supporting families through birth and beyond is what we do at Gracious Hands Doula Services.  Contact us today to talk about how we can help on this next step of your journey.  And if you aren’t there yet?  We would still love to hear from you and offer resources along the way.
Blessings
Leah the Gracious Hands Doula
www.gracioushandsdoula.com
gracioushandsdoula@gmail.com

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